There are some people in this world that harbor feelings of anger and hatred for years. It has robbed them of a fulfilled life for way too long. If these feelings are toward a particular person, then that person rarely knows that someone is angry at them. Sibling and coworker rivalry, disappointments, abuse, and betrayal are a few of the many reasons why people choose to hold onto anger and resentment. Anger is a natural emotion, but it has the ability to slowly degrade your soul and turn you into a bitter and very unhappy person. It is simply not worth the price.
The circumstances or actions of another person to you may more than justify why you are angry. One very important fact to remember is that being angry only hurts you. The other person’s life is never affected by your anger. Many times, they do not even know. If you are angry, you are the very person that is causing yourself more and more harm. Anger has its place and can be beneficial to you at times, but holding onto anger and resentment can lead to depression. Depression is anger that has turned inward and it opens up a whole new world of problems for you.
Forgiveness is a word that you probably do not want to even think about. You may think that you will never be capable of forgiving someone for what they have done to you. It is vital for you to realize that forgiveness is not for their benefit. Forgiveness is for your benefit and will allow you to be free of them and free to live out your life with purpose. Lewis Smedes said, “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
You and you alone are responsible for your feelings. No one can ever have any control over your feelings no matter what they do or say to you. The way you feel is a direct reflection of what you are thinking. That means you are capable of making quality choices in your life and steering your life down the path of fruitfulness and abundant joy. You have the ability to choose to be happy and forgive. When you do that, you will ease the heavy burden of anger and hate that you have carried for years. You will be truly free.